It appears like you will find generally 2 ways of thinking around the subject of obtaining women. One school states you need to be totally direct, so what if you’re shedding apparent get lines everywhere. Another school states you need to be very indirect, almost to the stage of acting as if you are simply attempting to be buddies having a lady which’s your golden ticket. Me, I type of like a mix of the 2 and I wish to explain WHY that’s.
First, allow me to explain some “issues” which have with two apparently opposing ways of thinking, though. I believe that can make things a bit more obvious.
The issue with being too direct is it really eventually ends up switching off lots of women. Attractive women, women with careers, women with senses of humor, etc. Many will react to that approach without a doubt, that may’t be refused. But, using the direct approach – you typically need to accept that many women will not enjoy it and you will need to approach dating and meeting women strictly just like a amounts game. So, that’s where I’ve the issue, since it really isn’t that effective Unless of course you’re the type of guy who’s going to approach massive levels of women.
The issue using the indirect approach is the fact that far too frequently, that approach results in the friend zone. Lots of men have discovered by using the indirect approach, they are able to obtain a telephone number, they are able to spend time having a lady after meeting her, however they ultimately get treated just like a friend. When they really DO attempt to be more direct, it’s past too far – they’re categorized to be within the friend zone also it takes whether miracle or abilities they just don’t have to get away from there.
So – let’s have a look at what i’m saying when you are direct when you are indirect.
Let’s say you approach a lady. Rather than acting like you want to be buddies together with her, be a bit more direct. With no get line. So, in ways – Hey, you appear as if you are getting a great time here tonight. I’m ________. You here with buddies or what? And you segue right into a more flirty conversation for a short time after which withdraw just a little.
Every time that you will get a bit more direct with what you’re saying… you need to withdraw and be more indirect. By doing this, she type of will get the sense which you may be attempting to pick her up, but simultaneously – she’s less than confident that that’s what you’re really doing. This will cause some a psychological ride on her, just a little confusion, and some sexual tension… all simultaneously.
You’re a little more prone to get more women than you’d with only the direct approach, which has a tendency to discourage like 75% from the women available at clubs and bars. However, since you keep getting a bit more direct every time… you’re not as likely to obtain put in the friend zone immediately like what goes on with many men who just depend on being indirect and along the way get lots of female buddies but no female friends with no action.